To grow in grief

When you lose someone you love, you don’t simply grieve their loss. With them, you lose yourself and parts of those around you. With them, you lose friends and family and partners you thought would continually stand by you. With them, you lose light. With them, you lose love. With them, you lose a piece of kindness from your whole. With them, you lose faith in the Almighty. With them, you lose a version of life you were prepared for. With them, you lose a piece of life too.

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Love isn’t perfection

Love is a myriad of moments and emotions and stolen smiles. It is text messages and the kisses he leaves on your forehead, it is fears enveloped in laughter and kisses mixed with alcohol. It is holding a new pair of hands and walking in the rain. It is sharing a box of nuggets in the park and studying together by candlelight. It makes you live and helps you forgive. What it isn’t is perfection. In fact, it is anything but. Often, it can be flawed but most other times it is beautiful, just like this moment—covered in light, content, committed, warm, delicious and cuddly.

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Solitude

Today, I am grateful for knowing I am comfortable in my own company again. Six months ago, I hit rock bottom and felt very alone to the extent that I feared my own company. It was easy to blame it on the gloomy weather, old carpets and ceiling falling apart over my head. In hindsight,…

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Note to self: It’s okay for relationships to fade

Every person we meet has a role to play in our lives. Some to teach us who we are, and some to teach us who we aren’t. This one is to all those friends whose lives crossed paths with mine. We may not still be friends but you’ve made a difference in mine, and I hope I did the same for you.

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Serendipitous strangers & small talk

Getting to know someone for the first time is like diving into that delicious molten cake from your favourite Friday night restaurant. You start out with some vanilla ice-cream, move on to that warm layer of cake, and finally dive straight into that rich molten chocolate. Each element tells its own story while you’re unravelling all those flavours. A lot like new friendships and getting to know someone. It’s all in the details; in the stories.

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Can we give love another chance?

As millennials, we find ourselves at crossroads because we’re told or seem to believe that love is hard and impossible. Sure, it involves compromise and is a work-in-progress. But when you think about the person you share this love with, it is meant to feel and be beautiful. It is the people you share this love with that often makes it bittersweet. If you or they didn’t find to make it last, maybe it wasn’t love? It might have been something good, just not love. So don’t give up on love and don’t give up on yourself.

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Note to self: Time is too short

❝ Sunsets are proof that there can be beauty in goodbyes — Beau Taplin The sky paints hues of warmth that speak to my being despite the chaos and voices in and around me. Knowing that someone somewhere is watching this beauty unfold with you, is reassuring and beautiful. Wait, stop, hold on for a…

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Almost 25: Quarter-life lessons

With a week to turning twenty-five, as always, the elation is trailed by contemplation. As I turn a year older (and hopefully wiser), here are some of my quarter-life lessons.

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The other woman

Your heart tells you it’s wrong
Your mind tells you to walk away
But in your bones, he’s the one you long for
He’s the reason you stay…always.

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Note to self: You are not your fear

It is easy to allow your insecurities to shine brighter than your spirit. It is easy to let your fears determine your character. But when you look back into your mirror of comparison and I mean really look…you will always see you. Some days with your jar of butterflies and some days, with your jar of strengths. Be bold and be willing, and don’t let fear rob you of your inner heroes.

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